Wednesday, June 29, 2016

Lincoln Benjamin Scott...






Lincoln Benjamin Scott - A Pregnancy Special Enough to Make You Never Want To Do It Again...

Hi again. This is Matt, Jade’s husband. Since I wrote the post about Andi's birth, Jade asked me to write this one for our second child, Lincoln.  This entire experience was so different than our pregnancy and birth with Andi. 

Many of you may know that we had to do IVF to get pregnant with Andi.  Last fall, we started talking about going back to the IVF doctor to start the process of trying to get pregnant again.  Jade always wanted us to have three kids, and since getting pregnant was so difficult (and expensive) for us, I was fine with having one, or two at the most.  In any event, the discussion of having another child had begun. Then, we went away to visit Jade’s parents in North Carolina and Jade posted some pictures here and there on Instagram, and some of Jade’s followers started commenting on the pictures asking if she was pregnant.  Thinking it impossible that she would be pregnant, Jade initially was somewhat offended or annoyed that people were more or less calling her out for having a little belly.  But, about three weeks later Jade started to feel sick and we got talking and she realized she was late and she took a pregnancy test and it came back positive! We were shocked and excited, and thankful.  We were going to be having a second child sooner than we had expected, without the need to go to an IVF clinic so any times. We never thought we would get pregnant on our own!  

At first, the pregnancy progressed normally, with Jade feeling sick and tired, and excited about the opportunity to decorate another nursery.  We of course were ecstatic when we found out we would be having a boy and already had the name Lincoln picked out from years ago when we were in high school. But, things got a little scary when one of Jade’s early ultrasounds revealed she had placenta previa.  As the weeks progressed, we hoped it would resolve itself, as many of them do.  Unfortunately, the previa did not change and our doctor eventually put Jade on bed rest, instructing her not to lift Andi. This was heartbreaking for Jade, at she had grown to cherish holding and cuddling Andi throughout the day.  Thankfully, Jade’s mom was able to come down and stay with us for the remainder of Jade’s pregnancy to help take care of Andi.  This turned out to be a true blessing in disguise, as it allowed Andi to bond with Jade’ mom, whom she now calls “Geegee.”  

The weeks that Jade was on bedrest were incredibly challenging for Jade and me.  A hypochondriac to begin with, Jade had lots of time on her hands to worry about whether everything with the pregnancy would be ok, whether Lincoln would be ok, and whether she would just start bleeding at some point randomly.  As is often the case with placenta previa. Jade started having contractions and bleeding around 29 weeks. We ran her over to the hospital and she spent a week there while the doctors monitored her and gave her medicine to stop her contractions and steroids to stimulate development of Lincoln’s lungs. That week was really hard on Jade. She had never been away from Andi.

On April 21st (which was the 31 week point of the pregnancy), Jade started bleeding again and again we ran over to the labor and delivery unit.  We absolutely thought they would keep Jade there for a week or two and send her home again.  But, after conducting a few tests, the doctors walked in and told us they wanted to deliver the baby that day!  The doctors decided Jade’s pregnancy had gotten too unstable and wanted to avoid the potential situation of Jade starting to bleed even more profusely, in which case the doctors would only have minutes to deliver Lincoln safely. Once we got over the shock, we called our family, said some prayers, and got ready to deliver.  The doctors told us that babies born at 31 weeks usually do really well in the NICU, but that nonetheless we should expect him to be in the NICU until his due date which was originally June 22nd.  To be honest, Jade and I both thought that was just something the hospital told people to temper expectations when their babies had to spend time in the NICU.


Thankfully, the C-section went well and was over quickly. Jade did not have any of the serious complications that can come along with placenta previa when giving birth. So thank God it was pretty much a routine C-section. Jade handled it like a champ and Lincoln Benjamin Scott was born at 12:19 weighing 3 pounds 13 ozs and 16 inches long. We were surprised at how big he was for 31 weeks especially since Andi was under 7 pounds. When the nurse brought Lincoln over to Jade and me to see him for the first time, we were shocked at how much dark black hair he had! He looked like a little monkey (just like his dad). We only got to see him for a few seconds before they took him to the NICU. He needed to be on oxygen pretty much right away. We were relieved that everything seemed fine, even though we knew he would need to spend some time in the NICU. He had no major problems. His heart, lungs, brain and pretty much everything were fine. So, we settled in to Jade’s recovery room and prepared ourselves for dealing with our baby being in the NICU for weeks or even months.   

It was almost 24 hours before Jade was able to go to the NICU to see him. And the first time she went it was very emotional. Seeing Lincoln lying there helpless hooked up to all of these beeping machines was very hard. We felt so helpless and scared. We were not able to hold Lincoln at all for the first week of his life which was also very hard especially on Jade. When it came time to leave Jade begged to stay one more night so that we could be with Lincoln. Luckily they let us.

Leaving the hospital without Lincoln was so hard for us and we definitely did not know what we were in for over the next six and a half weeks. No one really prepared us for having a premature baby. We really just thought he would be there for a few weeks and then come home and everything would be fine. Boy were we surprised.

The whole Pregnancy and Birth experience with Lincoln was just so different than the first time around. Our doctor told us he doesn't recommend that we have any more children so knowing this would be our last time having this experience was very emotional for Jade. Especially because nothing went as we planned and we weren't able to come home from the hospital with our baby. But at the end of the day, we are just thankful that we now have a healthy baby.

Since Matt shared And's Birth Story I just thought it was only right that he also shared Lincolns birth story. I am planning on doing a post (hopefully this week) about everything that happened while we were in the NICU for almost 7 weeks. And I am planning on blogging again! Hopefully I will start soon. I am just still adjusting to having two kids under two.

Thank you all so much for all of the love, support, comments and messages throughout this whole journey! We really are so appreciative and they mean so much to us. We are so thankful that it is all behind us now and that Lincoln is home and healthy. It was the hardest thing we have ever been through and it really gave me a new outlook. Life is so precious. Never take it for granted. There was nothing worse than seeing your tiny baby suffering. I felt so guilty the whole time he was in the NICU that he couldn't still be in my belly where he belonged and I wished so badly that it was me laying in a hospital bed not my innocent helpless baby. It has really taught me to take a step back and realize what matters most in life.

Thanks for stopping by and check back soon for the post about our NICU stay...


42 comments:

  1. So happy for you and your family that your little one is happy and healthy!

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  2. Thankfully everything turned out well, now time to be happy as a family of 4, you deserve it ! Congratulations !

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  3. I am so inspired by your sweet family! Your story reassures me that I want to pursue a career in labor and delivery or the NICU when I graduate nursing school in two years. Thanks for sharing your incredible story with all of us!!

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  4. I'm so glad everything is Ok!! I too relate to your story all too well. My son had many health issues upon birth and spent almost a whole year in the hospital. Talk about emotional and stressful. We are still dealing with issues. Bless you and Lincoln that he will be fine!! You're a lucky mama!

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  5. This is so sweet that Matt did the blog post! It's so scary to have had one experience and to have the other so dramatically different and scary. My husband and I are soon to be trying for our second baby and you just never know what can happen. I had an unplanned c-section with my first daughter, and while they are so extremely common, it came as a shock to me at the time and really affected me. This is clearly so different but so great to hear that you personally had no issues yourself with any common complications! I can't imagine what follows with Lincoln's NICU stay story as I saw all the nerves of your posts throughout it. The best part about hearing this story though is now knowing there is a happy ending to it <3

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  6. Your son's birth story brought me to tears! I followed your Instagram posts and have been praying since Lincoln was born that he would get to come home soon, that he was healthy, and that Andi was doing well while y'all were taking care of a preemie. It seems that everything turned out great, and your positive outlook surely made the difference. Praying for continued good health, growth, and a happy, healthy family!

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  7. I'm so glad everything is okay!

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  8. Sending so much love your way! Congrats on the little one!

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  9. I am so happy he is home and healthy! His birth story made me cry!

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  10. congrats on your baby so happy he healthy your story brought tears to my eyes

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  11. Thank you so much for sharing your story! I love that Matt wrote it, giving a whole new perspective to the situation from a dad's point of view which I don't often hear. Also glad to hear that he's home and everyone is doing well! Looking forward to your blogging return!

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  12. Oh my goodness what an awful experience!! I am so glad momma and baby are safe and Lincoln is now at home! Also, glad he was alright after the family's recent sickness :)

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  13. When nothing goes as planned, but all turned out okay!
    Thank you for sharing and take care! Enjoy the time with your 2 miracles cause they grow up so quickly! I know it's a cliche, but trust me when you have 2 it feels like time flies twice as fast!
    Xoxo, b

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  14. Thank you so much for sharing your story with us! All of the prayers you received help get you through the tough times, now you can watch your family thrive and grow!

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  15. Congratulations on the birth of your baby boy. I'm so glad to hear that he is home now and doing well.

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  16. Congratulations on the beautiful and healthy baby boy! We were pregnant at the same time in 2014, we had a hard time getting pregnant also so we were shocked when we found out I was pregnant again only 5 months after our first daughter was born, and not only that; we were pregnant with TWINS! They were born on December 8, 2015 at 34 weeks and had to spend time in the NICU which was so hard, but it got even harder when they came home and we had 3 babies under 2! Now the twins are 6 months old and so far we've had smooth sailing! Hang in there, it'll get easier I promise!

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  17. Thanks for sharing your story Jade - and congratulations he is now doing so well. I am a first time mama-to-be and the whole pregnancy experience is so scary and emotional, lots of ups and downs. Hearing your story reminds me how in the end, a healthy happy baby is all that matters x

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  18. Congratulations again you guys! I am so relieved he is healthy, home and you are all back together. Thank you so much for sharing... xxB

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  20. I cried, I am so glad baby Lincoln is getting better and growing healthy.

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  21. I have on and off been thinking about you, I just follow your blog and adore you! But I got on this morning to chexk in on you and see if anything was posted. I was so happy to see this. I cried but I am so happy you now have a healthy baby "most important" I also have a boy and a girl and we are expecting our third and last. I pray for you and a healthy recovery. Your so special and I pray the absoulute best for your family! Hugs 💜💜

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  22. So glad to see you are all ok. You've been missed. Love your blog:)

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  23. Sending y'all so much positivity right now, and if I lived closer you best believe that there would be some pre-cooked meals coming your way. I am so happy to hear that things are progressing well though, and will keep you in my thoughts!

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  24. Prayers and blessings for all!

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  26. Jade - I have followed you for several years on your blog and Instagram. It was hard to even read this and I teared up several times. You are such a great Mom and that truly shows. I am so happy that you have your sweet family all together now! I know you take nothing for granted after being through all of this. Thanks so much to you and Matt for sharing!

    XOXO,
    Carolyn

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  27. I'm so happy for you that things are much better, Lincoln is home and you are adjusting. I thought and prayed for you often as I know it can be so hard being away from your newborn. You have expectations in your head of how you think it will be. When it's not, it can be devastating. It's wonderful though to learn from experiences, move forward and be positive. I'm excited to see how these little ones bless your life - and how you bless theirs! xo

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  28. I delivered my twins at 33 weeks when my water broke for Twin A and totally understand how traumatic the NICU stay was. I hated being away from my tiny babies and spent hours in the NICU with them and when I would leave to go home, I just cried cause I felt so guilty. They are now healthy, 8 month old handsome baby boys and although they are both still small for their age, the doctors assure us that they will hit a growth spurt. So glad that your baby boy is okay and everyone is home safe and sound!

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  29. I've been following you for so long and I am so happy to know you are both safe and sound. I have two children of my own and I can't imagine the anguish you went thru while experiencing this scary situation. Makes you appreciate life so much more.

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